I have been using this motto,
especially after a long relationship that ended badly (and it’s catchy!) “Sass,
Ass, and Class”, a great lifestyle change for me and hopefully for a few of
you, as well. Let me break it down.
Sass – Internal
Sass means more than talking back,
and talking back and being snippy isn’t always the best way to approach things.
Being sassy with someone who is giving a job interview probably won’t turn out
for the best.
However, by sass I really mean: Standing up for yourself.
Although this seems simple, it is
major. I have been in situations that escalated into harassment several times and all
because I was too nice. I thought that I was strong enough to take their pain
as my own, because I thought it was easier that way. WRONG. I just became a
target, and no one stood up for me. If you don’t stand up for yourself, if you
don’t find a value in yourself, then who will?
Don’t let anyone use you. Don’t let anyone walk all over you.
There is a difference between being
told to mop once and doing it, and being told to mop everyday when there are
other people who have been doing nothing the whole time. You know when it’s
been too much.
The most courageous act is
still to think for yourself. Aloud.” ― Coco Chanel
Ass - Self
Judging someone at first sight,
although we try not to, is a common thing. If someone doesn’t take care of
themselves, you can’t expect them to take care of anything else. Would you want
someone who bathes only once a week to take care of your child, or your car
while you are away on vacation? I don’t know about you, but I would not trust
them to take care of anything of mine.
Would you go into a job interview wearing dirty, wrinkly
clothes and your hair a hot mess? Of course you wouldn’t, not if you want the
job. But if you want to be respected and feel good about yourself everyday, you
need to take care of yourself everyday. I’m not saying get a full face on, put
on some heels; spend 45 minutes getting ready kinda deal. I mean wash your
face, brush your teeth, and wear clean clothes kinda deal.
Health is a major, major part of
life. You will feel better, live better, and I promise you will be treated
better. Drink water for every meal rather than soda. Take the stairs rather than the elevator. Always wear clean clothes, wash your face every day, and brush your
hair (if applicable). Carry your head up high, a good posture with your eyes
level to your surroundings will also make you feel more controlled over your
life and less kicked around.
Self esteem and self confidence are
the best things in the world. The saying goes that you are your own worst
enemy, and I wholeheartedly agree. People are always going to say you can’t do
it, or that you are not strong enough to reach your dreams. But, have they met
theirs? Look at the people who are successful in life, what do they constantly
preach?
Don’t stop. Keep going. Never stop trying.
Compare that to those who are not successful.
You can’t do it. You aren’t strong enough. You aren’t good
enough.
See the difference? What they tell
you, they tell themselves. Pick who you want to be.
The first step is taking care of yourself, and giving
yourself the strength and confidence to fight. Believe in yourself so strongly
that the world believes you, too.
Class – External
In this over populated world, most
people are horrifically rude and self centered. As much hope and love I see in
humans and the world, I know this is true to a T. Working as a cashier at a
mall in one of the richest neighborhoods in the world drove that home.
Be educated
Understand etiquette – I actually
suggest investing in Emily Post’s book on etiquette.
(Warning: This thing is a textbook. However, it goes over
almost everything, including how to behave on Facebook to weddings).
With etiquette, you see the world
outside of you, and notice that others suffer. The reason why people are so
rude is because they are going too fast and can’t see anything else. Stopping, breathing,
and helping someone with a child take a seat or holding open the door will do
wonders to your patience, your understanding, and your self worth.
Listening is also a major key. Most
people listen to respond – people zone out 30 seconds into a conversation and
just poke in “uh huh” and “yeahs” as appropriate. I know this has happened to
you, it has to me and I hate it. To stop it, listen. No one ever got in trouble
for listening. Listen to understand, and you will find yourself more whole as a person.
Be respectful, in order to get
respect you must give it. Let your inner strength shine through your person,
with your sass, with your ass, and rounded off with your class. Only you can
make a change in your life, it’s your decision to make it a positive or a
negative change.
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